It was the year of 1986. I was a little girl, 7-8 years old, we used to watch films like mother and father. On that day Papa said – Let’s show you a film called Your name today. I was very excited and went to see the film. The story of the film was that Sharmila Tagore became a single mother in the film, whose daughter is Meenakshi Seshadri. Meenakshi is the only Swati. Since, Swati and her mother are single mothers, the people in the film are not related to them, they look at them with a hilarious look. Swati was a very confident and resolute girl, due to which she was disliked.
In the film, when Meenakshi is of her own marriage age, she gets worried about who will support her mother after marriage? During this concern, he meets Shashi Kapoor, who is a very unconcerned man. They also have a daughter. That character was played by Madhuri Dixit. After a lot of effort Meenakshi first Shashi Kapoor then consults Sharmila Tagore and gets her married. While preparing her mother for marriage, Meenakshi tells them – ‘I have never seen my mother live a fulfilling life, sitting alone in the middle of the night by the window, changing the sides and many glasses of water. Have seen drinking. I have never seen her laughing with anyone, sharing her mind, staring at herself in a mirror, wearing a bright colored sari and wearing a big red dot. I have always seen him leading a lonely life, seeing him like this will make it difficult for me to live a married life. ‘
And, finally, in the middle age of Sharmila Tagore and Shashi Kapoor, their daughters get married. This film was also given many awards at that time because it raised a big issue related to society.
A Normal Attack Though
After 32 years, once again a film has come out without any noise, which has very minutely attacked the thinking of the society about which we usually do not even know to talk about, far from wanting. thing is. The name of this film is, congratulations. The main cast of the film are Ayushman Khurana, Neena Gupta, Gajraj Rao, Surekha Sikri and Sanya Malhotra and Sheeba Chadha.
Sex is the taboo word of our society. If a virgin girl has sexual relations then she is not fit for marriage, her character is not right. If she is a woman beyond 50 and she is sexually active with her husband even at this age, then she is shameless, she should purify herself by taking a bath in the Ganges. So the question is, at what age should women use their sexual rights? Or under what circumstances?
This question is because now what should be the right age of marriage for girls, this concept has also changed to a great extent, this deadline has increased to 35 to 40 in the lap of career-studies and jobs. Which can not be considered the right age for reproduction biologically. One reason for this is our changing life style too.
So should women have sex with their partners until they are able to have children? That is, those physical relationships will be given social recognition where the purpose of reproduction is involved. Where this purpose is not fulfilled, those relationships will not only be unacceptable but will also be mocked, demeaned and boycotted if possible.
In the film, not one such, many social taboos, stereotypes and stereotypes are immersed together. However, the same topic was touched in another film some time ago, but its method was a bit different. The film was Lipstick Under My Burqa.
Why should sexual freedom be given only to those women or couples who are living the dazzling life of the metros. Whose life is very difficult and lonely according to the definitions of today – why should not those women-men and couples who are living a lonely life, away from their children in a small town, town and village. In a word, why not our parents? Why not our uncle-aunt, maternal uncle? Our society is intent on planning sex or sexual activity in a box.
Do the middle-aged women who live in the house, whose days and nights are spent in the care of the family, who go to Jagran and Jagrat, who take care of the old mother-in-law or father-in-law, who wears loose-fitting night and salwar-kurtas Are they not empowered to establish intimate relationships with their husbands or partners?
In the film, the hypocrisy (hypocrisy) related to this subject has also been sharply attacked. Suresha Sikri, the mother-in-law of Nina Gupta’s character Priyamvada, objected to her applying lipstick, when the women at home and neighborhood looked at her and mocked Priyamvada – but, the husband of the same women, prides her by seeing Priyamvada’s husband i.e. Gajrao Rao That he is capable of becoming a father even at this age.
When Ayushmann’s upper middle class, wine-drinking widow mother-in-law angrily says – “Okay, it all happens in Passion Moment but why didn’t you get a premonition,” or what her daughter is saying to her boyfriend – ‘If his mother had become pregnant then it would have been a matter of more trouble, because he does not even have a father.’
In the film, there was not a single character except Priyamvada i.e. Nina Gupta and her son Nakul’s girlfriend Rani i.e. Sanya Malhotra.
Who did not have problems with this pregnancy. But, the character who did not have any problem with people’s problems was Priyamvada. It was not a shame for her that she had intimate physical relationship with her husband, nor that she was going to be a mother at the age of fifty.
In the same way Renee had no problem, being a educated modern girl, she understood that if her mother could have a physical need, then her mother-in-law too. He did not differentiate between his high-profile mother and middle-class mother-in-law. Because he has a good idea that whether he is, his mother or his mother-in-law, sexual need was the same. When that need did not make a difference in the social status of these women, then why should we or society do like this?
If we go to the countryside even today, we will find that in many homes, the age of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law does not change much, sometimes daughter-in-law children are older than mother-in-law. If a parent has five children, a difference of 20-22 years is often found between the age of the first and last child. Everything has been very common.
In many research, it has been found that the sexual life of the women of the village and countryside has been more active than the women of the city. Due to being married at a young age, they get into sexual contact from a young age and remain active for a long time. These figures are also when male members of the families living in our villages often come to the cities in search of work. The meaning is clear – acceptance of physical relations in our villages is more than the cities and the number of women is not less there.
Again the film moves towards Swati – whose heroine wanted to give a full life to her mother. It was evident that a romantic sexual relationship was also involved in it. Congratulations, when the character of Ayushman in the film says – “Is this the thing for mummy and dad”? And Renee’s mother says – ‘How can this happen’
To this, Renee says- ‘Just as it would have been!’ Just as relationships are established between any young couples, so does our parents, there is nothing new in this. Nothing unusual. And yes, for this, every fifty person, like Ayushmann’s father Gajrao Rao – does not have to be a poet’s heart, nor to wait for the rain to come, it is a symbol of a perfect relationship between two people. – Which we should accept with full respect and sensitivity.